29/05/2017

#ASHLLYDFIT - A NEW FOUND FITNESS JOURNEY


Welcome to a self-taught fitness journey; to become a lean, toned and stronger woman.

I have never been a size 8 and I am happy with that. I don't remember a time that I stood on the scales and weighed in anything less than 10 stone either, but I am happy with that too. 

I remember when we moved to the area that I live in now and had to register at a doctor's surgery. I think I was around the 12/13 age mark and I remember having a routine checkup upon registration. My blood pressure was taken and my weight. I specifically remember the nurse looking a little apprehensive and asking me to step outside whilst she spoke to my mum. I knew what she was telling my mum. That I was overweight and needed to start shifting some weight. 

Back then, I felt huge because I was made to feel like I was huge. I went through years of bullying through both primary and secondary school, being called 'fat' and 'chubby'. As a young girl growing up, this is incredibly damaging and I felt so unhappy in the skin I was in. Looking back now? I was a 15 year old, size 10 young woman, with bigger boobs than my friends and curves which my friends hadn't yet developed. Yet, it was drummed into me that I was fat. 

I also really hope the nurse has either retired or been educated a little better on what should be labelled as 'overweight'. I also wish these people from my schooling life would stop trying to add me on Facebook.


I have been recently body shamed on social media by fellow bloggers and I am ashamed and embarrassed. If you feel the need to shoot people down for the way the look, please stop. It was quite clear to myself and other people that these girls are so insecure about themselves. The only way to make themselves feel better about being unhappy in their own bodies, is to laugh about somebody else's. 

I have posed in underwear on my blog because I am a confident 24 year old woman. This doesn't make me "trashy", nor does it make me an "attention seeker" or any of the other vile things people have said about me. I fucking love my curves. I love my boobs. I do have a love/hate relationship with my stomach, but it's a part of me and I accepted that years ago. I don't shy away from showing and writing about what I love, so why is my body any different? 

Lingerie brand collaborations are my favourite and I am so proud that brands notice me for how confident I am with my body. 


We are all born naked into the world and spend the majority of our younger years running around naked. We all got changed into P.E clothes at school in front of each other and all had to climb into swimming costumes/shorts for our best friend's birthday party. We all take our clothes off at the end of the day and we all get up close and personal with someone we are about to sleep with. We all bathe with no clothes on and get undressed in shop's changing rooms. We all prance about in bikinis and swimming trunks whilst on holiday and we are all undressed by strangers when we die. 

There is nothing wrong with being naked and there is certainly nothing wrong in covering up your intimate parts and embracing the rest. 


I have been eating clean and going to the gym 5 times a week for about 5 weeks, but I don't restrict myself with food. I still treat myself to a bit of chocolate every now and then and it's important to remember that is what makes up a balanced diet. I also haven't drank diet coke for 6 months. I mostly always drink water now and have seen an incredible difference in my skin and energy levels. 


When I stepped on the scales 2 weeks ago, I had put 5 pounds on and was horrified and very baffled as to what I was doing wrong. However, I now realise this is my body building muscle, as I have started seeing visible changes to my body. I have since lost that 5 pounds again, which I should imagine is me losing body fat whilst building muscle.


There's 4 weeks difference between these two photos. My legs are more muscular and my stomach is somewhat flatter. I've been working my arse off in the gym; usually spending 2/2.5 hours in there per day. Now the hard work is starting to show and it makes me more determined to keep going.

What do I want from the gym?

I am honestly not really interested in losing weight, which is why I concentrate more on weight training than hitting up the treadmill for an hour. A mistake so many people make who want to build muscle.

Whilst I sit on the scales at double numbers, I know this is a mix of having bigger boobs, hips, a bum; and now muscle.  I think the biggest mistake that a person can make is obsessing over numbers. I don't rush to the scales after every workout. In fact, I weigh myself only a few times per year. 

Numbers don't mean anything and this is SO important to remember. Being a size 12 on top is considered "plus size", which absolutely baffles me. Having bigger boobs means I can't quite slide into those size 10 tops as much I probably could do if my DD's were B's instead. I'm a true size 12 in bottoms, because I have a butt. However, I have some bottoms that are size 10s and some size 12s are too big for me. The UK sizing is all over the place lately which is why I don't obsess over it. I know that I don't fit into Topshop Mom jeans and H&M jeans are too small for me; even at a size 16! 

Outrageously ludicrous. 


I have wanted to start a fitness section on my blog for ages, so this is the first instalment. I will probably update every month with progress, so it will be interesting to look back and see how far I have come. 

I have a long term goal in mind and I know it will take a couple of years to get there. However, with my dedication to the gym and a balanced diet, I know I will get there eventually. So, watch out for my next lingerie blog post - there's loads more coming for sure and I can't wait to rock it.
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42 comments

  1. Absolutely love this post! It's ok to be body positive while still wanting to change and/or improve. I want to step up my fitness game so much but still struggle with consistency. Following your dedication the past weeks has been so inspiring and I hope I'll be getting there, too! Keep it up girl, you're gorgeous (the way you are and the way you will be when you've reached your goal)! xxx yella

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    1. Thank you so much Yella. It's so lovely to know I have inspired someone and I know you support me on social media too. You're so lovely!
      Ashleigh x

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  2. You look sensational and I love your body confidence. Your healthy outlook on life, body, exercise etc... is pretty fab as well!

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    1. Thank you so much Kate. I feel amazing where I have changed my outlook on everything.
      Ashleigh x

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  3. it is all about how you feel about yourself and body confidence. I've been doing lots of Pilates and feel stronger longer and leaner. I also never weigh myself.

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    1. I agree, Helen. I'm still yet to try Pilates. have heard great things about it :)
      Ashleigh x

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  4. Well done you for being so confident in your body now.. I need to work on cutting out the Diet Coke, that is definitely one of my bigger vices x

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    1. Thank you! Haha, it was a tough thing to do and I had cravings for a couple of weeks, but now I never reach for it.
      Ashleigh x

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  5. How could anyone fat shame you is beyond me. You are gorgeous and have an amazing figure, I love how confident you are in your body. I hope that it rubs off on me x

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    1. Thank you Ana. I think you're super confident! I wish I could post outfits as much as you do.
      Ashleigh x

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  6. Hey, good luck on your fitness journey. And I'm sorry to hear you were fat shamed at school and body shamed on social media. It's quite clear that people who feel the need to negatively comment on other people's bodies are bitter, hateful and insecure within themselves.

    Unfortunately we live in a society that loves to body-shame women, regardless of body size and type. As a tall and slim woman, I've had a lot of people skinny-shame me and shame me for my height.

    I definitely think learning to love and embrace your body is the best way forward, and starting a fitness section and posting pictures of yourself in lingerie are a couple of the best ways to do that. Ignore the haters!

    Chichi
    chichiwrites.com

    P.S. If those jerks won't stop adding you on Facebook, then it's best to block them.

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  7. Good luck with your fitness journey, such a great post. I have just joined my local health club, as I am on a fitness plan too :) x

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  8. Yaaas Queen! This is how all women should feel with their bodies, confident but just wanting to be healthy

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  9. You look fantastic and you always have. I hate that you had those experiences as a child (and more recently) because they do really stick with us.
    Feeling stronger and fitter is always great. I'm trying to get back to working out 5 times a week as well. I love it but haven't had the energy lately.
    I write about body positivity on my blog if you're interested in checking it out.
    V <3
    http://sirvikalot.wordpress.com

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  10. This is a great post. I started a fitness programme last year and did a great job at it. I'm slowly getting back into it. All the best

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  11. I related to this post so so much. I'm a size 12 on top due to having DDs and sometimes a 10 or 12 on the bottom. Sizing is so out of whack it's not even funny!

    While I'm not putting too much (or any) work into losing any weight/getting fitter like you are (go you!), I am making a conscious effort to choose healthier food over the junk I'd usually eat and have managed a whole month without chocolate (completely addicted before), replacing it with healthier things that I actually enjoy.

    You just keep doing you and pay no attention to the people who take time out of their day to attempt to knock other people down - it's only a reflection of themselves.

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  12. Well done on your fitness program! And I completely agree with you to not be too strict with the food, a piece of chocolate every now and then can only be good for you x

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  13. You have a great healthy outlook. Positive body image is the way forward!

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  14. Oh wow! I love your body! I hope I can also aim for that body. Such a nice read and good job on your fitness program. Cheers!

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  15. I think you have a fantastic perspective, and I agree with you about UK sizing, it's all over the place and best not paid attention to!

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  16. Congrats on starting your fitness journey - you're doing amazingly! x

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  17. I love this post so much! I am working on being more positive towards the way I look at myself, and I have lost a lot of weight making me feel amazing in clothes that never used to fit. But I would love to know some of the exercises that you do for toning and building muscle, I always feel like such a newbie at the gym that I only ever really focus on cardio.

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  18. Very proud of you sweetie, you're doing things for you and that's what matters. People don't realize that a few words can have a huge impact on the confidence of a young teen but you're doing your best to overcome it and for that you should be proud - well done! Xx

    www.diaryofadeera.co.uk

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  19. I really do wish you luck with your fitness journey. I am appalled that you were body shamed by other bloggers that is awful behaviour and shows them in a bad light.

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  20. I can not believe you were body shamed, I think you look great. As long as you get the results you want and not what you think the world wants you to get that's the main thing x

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  21. Wow! You look fantastic, I don't get body shaming it's pointless but I think people just like to be negative towards others. I like my scales cos it tells me my body fat and that's one thing I'm concentrating on more than my lbs as I do weight training. Go you!

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  22. You look amazing and body shaming shouldnt even be a thing anymore - people should really know better! Good luck on your journey!

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  23. This is a fantastic post! Loving yourself is a great thing to do, and the bodyshamers need to look in the mirror before throwing stones at someone else. You look amazing and going to the gym will make you look even more fab!

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  24. I can relate so much!! Its horrible as a young adult to be called fat or overweight especially when you're actually a size 10 and nothing wrong in that!! I had a period of time where people would say it to me that I stopped eating and lost weight, it was stupid and I wish I hadn't given into the pressure!! at 16 I was a size 8 but gradually year by year I got bigger and then I got pregnant and got even bigger, after two babies I'm on a journey of losing weight again and I feel so much more confident in myself now, even with the stretch marks and all of that, I'm proud that I can change my lifestyle and lose weight if I really need to. Also your underwear pics I thought were lovely not at all trashy, thats what bitchy immature girls say when they feel threatened by you!

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  25. It's great that you are body posotive I wish i could be as confident as you in how I look and feel about my body.

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  26. It's such a shame that you've been body shamed at all, let alone by fellow bloggers. I think you look great!

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  27. Love love LOVE this post! It's so awful that you were body shamed but I love how strong and confident you are and this is such an inspiring post. Congratulations on your fitness journey, you are looking amazing, but remember it's not a race - maybe cutting back in the gym a little would make this lifestyle more sustainable long-term, you don't want to overtrain and burn out.

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  28. You had a good look and I love your body, I'm planing to start to lose weight and eating healthy food.

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  29. Well done for sticking to your new routine. That's really the way to go :)

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  30. I remember the pressures growing up. I was never a "skinny" person and compared to my friends I always felt out of place. I've struggled with body positivity for years and last year I joined the gym and started to focus on fitness and health rather than weight and I felt good, but then I got pregnant and had to stop so I'm now back to where's I was befor. I'm hoping to rejoin the gym soon and get some me time. Good luck with your journey x

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  31. Well done for been brave enough to post things like this x

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  32. Ashleigh you're looking fucking incredible!! It's so motivating when you start to see your hard work paying off isn't it? I weighed myself recently for the first time since joining the gym about six months ago and I'm a stone heavier than I was then - I'm now officially overweight which is ridiculous because I'm the fittest I've ever been. BMI is such a useles tool!

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  33. You look great Ashleigh! Body confidence is key and you have lots of it. Your hard work is paying off and giving me motivation to hit the gym again too 👏🔥

    Evie- www.ohevie.com

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  34. I can't believe you were body shamed!? That's awful.. So glad you didn't let it affect you that much, and well done on being so motivated!

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  35. That booty! You look great! I know you said you're not entirely confident with your stomach, but I wish mine was as flat as yours! I go to the gym about 5 times a week too, although only for an hour or so. It's really rewarding seeing your body getting stronger, isn't it? I love lifting weights, I wish I had more patience with cardio haha. It's all about those marginal gains!

    Sarah xo | www.polkadotlemon.com

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  36. All I can see is hawt & sexy, good luck with your fitness journey!

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